What if I told you women’s body confidence was classed as a critical issue worldwide? Would the word critical resonate? Would it sound like I was over dramatising the subject? Or would it just be the truth..
What if I told you women in the UK have the second lowest body confidence rating in the WORLD! The statistics show that 9/10 women opt out of social activities, stop themselves from eating and also become less assertive in the decisions they make in life all because of low self esteem. The phrases ‘self love’ and ‘self care’ have become more and more prevolent on social media platforms but are we all talk no action? Are you giving yourself enough self love?
As a mother of a seriously active toddler who has a busier social calendar than the cast of TOWIE one of my own personal hobbies is neglecting myself, of course this is an awful attempt at a joke to masquerade the sad fact that the reality is I do often neglect myself and my own wellbeing. In this blog I really want to share some tips on feeling confident and also how to put that self love self care mantra into practice (myself included)
Look for the positives.
We live in a world where it’s easy to get caught up in everything you don’t have when really we should be looking to all the things we do have. You need to find what makes you, you. Focus on what you love about yourself, what makes you unique. Make a list of all the positive things that happened in your day, even the smallest of things is a victory.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Nowadays it’s so easy to look online and become obsessed with comparing yourself to someone else. We literally post everything for the world to see making it so easy to build comparisons. Sometimes you need to take a step back and remember that just because someone is thriving doesn’t mean you’re not, someone elses success doesn’t cancel out your own. I remember being a seriously depressed 13 year old because my bestie was packing a DD bra out and I was barely filling my tammy girl vest…just proving how early us women start comparing ourselves to others. Guess what those little self conscious girls grow into older self conscious women, but as women we now have the power to stop and say I am who I am and that’s pretty awesome.
Show yourself some TLC
This one is so basic yet can sometimes be the hardest to maintain. Us women are busier than ever, I don’t know about anyone else but with the amount of juggling I do I may as well join a bloody circus, Whether it’s juggling work, children, relationships and friendships sometimes you find yourself undoubtably at the back of a very long queue. So as well as pencilling all of the above people in pencil some personal TLC in too. I’ve started trying to plan cute pamper nights (when MJ cooperates with his 8pm bedtime) because even just washing my hair and applying a simple face mask feels like a 5* spa. Make a list of thing you love doing and set yourself a challenge to do as many as you can in a month. For me personally this month I want to find 1 amazing book and finish it.
Be kind to yourself
When your bestie is battling her insecurities and constantly putting herself down, what do you do? You pick her up and put her on the highest pedestal that’s what. So why don’t you start doing that for yourself? When you’re constantly putting yourself down and feeding those insecurities you need to stop immediately and get yourself on that pedestal girl. Always try and remember who you are and what you’re worth.
I could spend all day preaching about what you should and shouldn’t do but these are all just little suggestions, self care is exactly that. You, yourself. There are so many amazing tips out there to get you started if you search ‘self care on Pinterest’ you’ll be inundated with loads of amazing ideas. There’s also some great books out there to get you feeling good. I recently read Sarah Knights ‘You do you’ and loved it.